Bhagavatam: First Skanda.
People are absorbed in the longings of family life. Do not do deeds simply to get pleasure. This is all attitude. You can not buy pleasure with anything. A person who is retired does not have any pleasure. One becomes sick only after retirement. All parts of the body get affected.  So do activities with commitment and willingness.  Do not do for the sake of pleasure alone.
If you can laugh little, total work is done easily. To be able to laugh is real fortune. Laughter lessens the burden of anything. To laugh and to make others laugh is one of the acts of philosophy.
Once we do with willingness. Next we do with infatuation.
Things that are done with  Trikarana Sudhi [Manasa, Vacha, Karmana] ,with heart, Speech and actions may not be rewarding in some cases.But still we must not give up doing. Continue to do irrespective of the result and that is what preached by Sri Krishna in Bhagavat Gita.
Karya Karmalu:
Actions are done with an offering to God and thinking that it is a good act.Things and actions that you do not have interest in, must be done leaving every thing to God. Difficult deeds also must be done with the dedication. Whatever you aspire may nmot be obtained. To get or not to get is the grace and willingness of God. You can not see anything except to see what God does. One who believes in this God's decision does not perish even if he falls.
All Karmas are the basis of family bondage. If they are considered as the offering to God, they become the basis of intelligence [by conquering ignorance]. and make Eshwara , who is in the other form, happy.

Bhagavatam

We get misery from those whom we like most.Sometimes we get misery from those whom we hate most, We feel unhappy at ego and malice. By seeing all these we feel unhappy. what we see in others is also there in us. Our face, our nature reflect in the world. We find hatred, jealousy, sin and good in others in plenty. It is because all these things are there in us in abundance.We are looking at our own reflection.
If we offer prayer to the Eshwara in other person , that is real greatness.Go on looking at Vasudeva.
It is easy to see Vishnu. we can not see our enemy as Vishnu..If we consider him as Vishnu ,the chemistry in you changes. Rajas,Tamas gunas in you keep changing.
Sri Krishna defined "Satwa" gunas as follows:
1. Adhyatmika Tapam.
2.Adibhowthika Tapam.
3.Adi daivika Tapam.
Abhayam is to conquer fear.
What kinds of fears do you have?
1.Fear about yourself and your body.
2.Longing for material gains, relatives, friends. Fear about either gain or loss.
3.The urge that is caused on account of the previous birth[Karma Phalam].
Getting fear without without valid reason. Being jealous without proper reason.This all comes out of a Karma Phalam. of previous births.Even if we do good bad comes for us.That is the longing [Tapam].
If you want to get rid of these  fears ,You have to see "Eshwara" in all your activities.