Bhagavatam

We get misery from those whom we like most.Sometimes we get misery from those whom we hate most, We feel unhappy at ego and malice. By seeing all these we feel unhappy. what we see in others is also there in us. Our face, our nature reflect in the world. We find hatred, jealousy, sin and good in others in plenty. It is because all these things are there in us in abundance.We are looking at our own reflection.
If we offer prayer to the Eshwara in other person , that is real greatness.Go on looking at Vasudeva.
It is easy to see Vishnu. we can not see our enemy as Vishnu..If we consider him as Vishnu ,the chemistry in you changes. Rajas,Tamas gunas in you keep changing.
Sri Krishna defined "Satwa" gunas as follows:
1. Adhyatmika Tapam.
2.Adibhowthika Tapam.
3.Adi daivika Tapam.
Abhayam is to conquer fear.
What kinds of fears do you have?
1.Fear about yourself and your body.
2.Longing for material gains, relatives, friends. Fear about either gain or loss.
3.The urge that is caused on account of the previous birth[Karma Phalam].
Getting fear without without valid reason. Being jealous without proper reason.This all comes out of a Karma Phalam. of previous births.Even if we do good bad comes for us.That is the longing [Tapam].
If you want to get rid of these  fears ,You have to see "Eshwara" in all your activities.